I am prompted to revisit this article by one of my favorite life coaches Sean MCpheat, especially during this festive month, when their are lots of parties to attend, not forgetting the traditional Christmas "over eating" that some of us indulge it!
I recently saw one of my friends in my local shopping centre, and she told me she was stressed out as she wanted to get a size 12 black dress, but she has been on so many different diets that all she could manage was to achieve being a size 14 (originally she was size 18) I had to sit her down and complemented her on how good she looked and the fact that she had indeed lost a lot of weight. After a lengthy chat with her, I was happy that she felt better and managed to get the black dress she wanted in size 14 and was no longer stressed.
As for me I no longer like the word "diet", I prefer to use " Healthy eating" as to me it is more positive and also means taking care of me Body, Mind and Spirit!
From childhood we are sold on an ideal image of beauty, one few of us ever see reflected when we look in the mirror. This article will show you how you can look in the mirror and despite the ideal, see only a beautiful you.
When you look in the mirror, what’s the first thing you notice, and how does it make you feel?
If you’re like most people, the first thing that catches your eye is probably your least favorite asset. If so, don’t worry you’re not alone. Here’s why.
From your earliest childhood days—whether you played with Action Man or Barbie—you’ve been receiving constant, consistent images telling you what beauty is supposed to look like.
Never mind that these images are for the most part, anatomically impossible!
And, would you really want to look like Fabio anyway? Or Pam Anderson? Honestly?
I’m guessing probably not.
So, here’s how you can build your confidence with the body God gave you:
1. Look in the mirror
2. This time, really look at yourself.
Reflect on the compliments you have received.
Do people tell you how great your hair is?
How beautiful your eyes are?
That you have a nice smile? Try to see what they see.
3. Stand far enough away from the mirror so that you can take it all in. What do you see? Find at least three positive things.
4. Now, get up close.
Really close.
Look at your eyes—the irises.
What colour are they?
Are they all one colour or are there flecks of various colours?
How would you describe them using positive analogies or adjectives?
5. Now, smile. What does your smile convey? Warmth? Happiness?
6. Find at least three characteristics you like best about yourself, and then accentuate them as you dress to go out.
§ If you love your eyes, make sure your hair doesn’t cover them up
§ Love your lips? Make sure to keep them soft and moisturized
§ Your hair? Get a flattering cut and condition it regularly to keep it shiny and healthy
In short, amplify what you like, and don’t worry about the parts you don’t.
Here are some ways to do just that:
§ Go shopping and bring a good friend. Ask them to help you pick out colours and clothes they think flatter you. Don’t worry if your first reaction is “that’s not me!” Experiment!
§ Feel better about whatever it is you don’t like about yourself by picturing the absolute worst-case scenario. Exaggerate whatever it is you’re hung up on and blow it up in you mind until it’s comical. Then look in the mirror—not so bad anymore is it?
Accept yourself for who you are, how you look, and focus on what really matters—the things about you that can’t be seen—your heart, mind and soul!
§ What do you want people to praise you for? Is it really how you look? Probably not. You probably want people to think you’re funny, smart, nice, or generous—something along those lines right?
§ Make a list of your positive personal qualities and characteristics. Then ask yourself, what’s more important? Get involved in activities that build on your personal characteristics—volunteer, join a club, take a class to sharpen a talent. These will help you emphasize and focus more on the more important qualities that get you through life successfully and with more fun.
Remember you are unique, special, an original and not a copy!
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